Friday, February 27, 2009

Tale to Understand - Take responsibility for your actions, dont blame others.

THE LOVING HUSBAND A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes.

When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its colour and drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child ,he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

What were the five words? The husband just said "I am with you Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behaviour. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her!! REFLECTION
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By doing this actually we are missing out the warmth and beauty in human relationships. All blame is just a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. Learn to be responsible for your actions and consciously be aware of your emotions towards others and be careful when you point your fingers at others before pointing them at yourself first. By blaming others, you are only fooling yourself by finding an excuse to cover up the problem you dont want to face or dont know how to face. Always try to fix the problem and not the blame. A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday!

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