Friday, August 29, 2008

जिन्दगी और हकीकत

जिन्दगी और हकीकत

जिंदगी, पंद्रह बाई पचासजिंदगी हो गई है 'रो-हाऊस' सी,पंद्रह बाई पचास पर बने,तीन तरफ़ दीवारों से घिरे,मकान की तरह,बिल्डर कहते हैं, जिसेवास्तु-अनुरूप आलीशान बँगला।अंदर हैं, क्रमवार…ड्राईंग रूम,जिसमें उठता बैठता, पढ़ता सोता हैलड़का,दरवाज़े से बाहर देखते,उड़ान भरने का दिवा-स्वप्न ।उसके पीछे हैमेरा कमरा जिसमें आती है पत्नीरात कोरसोई का सारा काम समेट,सास-ससुर से झिड़की हुईथकी हारी ।इस कमेरे में हैं, सारी दीवारों पर'बिल्ट-इन कपबोर्ड़'जिसमें पुराने कपड़ों, सर्टिफिकेटों के साथ रखे हैंन पूरे हुए सपने, इच्छाऐंऔर धुंधलाते चित्र ।छत पर, पंखे के अलावानक्काशी बनी हुई है सपनों की,हम दोनों जो बुनते हैं,बच्चों को ले कररात के अंधेरे में,सूनी आँखों से,जिनमें किरकिराती रहती है'होम-लोन' की अगली किश्त ।इसके बाद है किचनजो है पत्नी का कमराऔर जिसमें सोती हैलड़की,जमीन पर बिस्तर लगा करवो भी थकी हारी,कालेज़ से आ, माँ का हाथ बंटासूखती जा रही है जोदिन रात शादी की चिंता में।सबसे पीछे के कमरे में हैंमेरे बापू,लकवा ग्रस्त, खटिया पकड़े हुए,और माँ, उनकी तीमारदारी में ।इस कमरे में हैंनदी का साफ़ पानी,खेतों की हरियाली,अमराईयाँ,गांव की खुली हवा,जो बहती रहती हैसिर्फ़ उनकी यादों में।पाँच तत्वों में सेआता है,हमारी जिन्दगी मेंजल, नलके से,भुंसारे,पद्रह मिनट के लिये ।वायु, मिज़ाज़ानुसार,दरवाज़े से ।आकाश,चोरी छिपे,रोशनदान से ।अग्नि,महीने के अंत तक धीमी होती हुई,गैस-चूल्हे से ।और रहता है हमारे नीचे,थल,पूरा का पुरा,'पंद्रह-बाई-पचास'।

थे साइंस ऑफ़ astrology

In a small village there lived a famous astrologer, who was well known for his accurate prediction. He had an intelligent marriageable daughter but he was reluctant to get her married, as he was afraid, that she would become a widow just after nuptial ceremony. The whole village knew about this. One day a lad from the village came forward to marry her stating that he is willing to meet his fate as destined. The girl also emphasized that she is confident to over come the situation by her intelligence and will power. So both of them got in to wedlock.
Early in the morning at 4 AM, after first night the bridegroom went to river to take bath. A crocodile grabbed his feet to eat him. The bridegroom pleaded to the crocodile to spare him for an hour, so that he will inform his newly wedded wife about the matter, and will come back for his grub. The crocodile agreed to his plea and said that in case he fails to come back he will be a sinner like a man who continues to eat when the light goes off. The bridegroom narrated every thing to her and she permitted him to go back to the river for the crocodile's grub. The lady stealthily followed her husband at a distance, with a lighted lamp in one hand and an empty basket in the other. When her husband entered the river and the crocodile was about to grab his leg, the lady put the basket over the lighted lamp as if the light is put off. The crocodile remembered his words and spared the lad, and permitted him to go back. So the lady with her sheer will power and intelligence saved the life of her husband.
The Astrologer father was perplexed as what went wrong in his calculation/ prediction despite of taking all precautionary measures to note the exact time of birth. He has clearly instructed to nurse to roll a lemon instantaneously when the child cries after the birth and he will stand behind the door and note the time of birth the moment he sees the lemon. He went back to the place of birth and noted the time taken for the lemon to reach the door from the delivery bed. And reworked her horoscope and calculation. Lo! He found that there were indications that the bridegroom would lose his life but for the mangalya bhagyam (longevity of married life) of the wife he will come back from the gallows of death.
The science of Astrology is not wrong but casting of horoscope / prediction makes all the difference.

थे साइंस ऑफ़ astrology

In a small village there lived a famous astrologer, who was well known for his accurate prediction. He had an intelligent marriageable daughter but he was reluctant to get her married, as he was afraid, that she would become a widow just after nuptial ceremony. The whole village knew about this. One day a lad from the village came forward to marry her stating that he is willing to meet his fate as destined. The girl also emphasized that she is confident to over come the situation by her intelligence and will power. So both of them got in to wedlock.
Early in the morning at 4 AM, after first night the bridegroom went to river to take bath. A crocodile grabbed his feet to eat him. The bridegroom pleaded to the crocodile to spare him for an hour, so that he will inform his newly wedded wife about the matter, and will come back for his grub. The crocodile agreed to his plea and said that in case he fails to come back he will be a sinner like a man who continues to eat when the light goes off. The bridegroom narrated every thing to her and she permitted him to go back to the river for the crocodile's grub. The lady stealthily followed her husband at a distance, with a lighted lamp in one hand and an empty basket in the other. When her husband entered the river and the crocodile was about to grab his leg, the lady put the basket over the lighted lamp as if the light is put off. The crocodile remembered his words and spared the lad, and permitted him to go back. So the lady with her sheer will power and intelligence saved the life of her husband.
The Astrologer father was perplexed as what went wrong in his calculation/ prediction despite of taking all precautionary measures to note the exact time of birth. He has clearly instructed to nurse to roll a lemon instantaneously when the child cries after the birth and he will stand behind the door and note the time of birth the moment he sees the lemon. He went back to the place of birth and noted the time taken for the lemon to reach the door from the delivery bed. And reworked her horoscope and calculation. Lo! He found that there were indications that the bridegroom would lose his life but for the mangalya bhagyam (longevity of married life) of the wife he will come back from the gallows of death.
The science of Astrology is not wrong but casting of horoscope / prediction makes all the difference.

The science of Astrology is not wrong but casting of horoscope / prediction makes all the difference

In a small village there lived a famous astrologer, who was well known for his accurate prediction. He had an intelligent marriageable daughter but he was reluctant to get her married, as he was afraid, that she would become a widow just after nuptial ceremony. The whole village knew about this. One day a lad from the village came forward to marry her stating that he is willing to meet his fate as destined. The girl also emphasized that she is confident to over come the situation by her intelligence and will power. So both of them got in to wedlock.
Early in the morning at 4 AM, after first night the bridegroom went to river to take bath. A crocodile grabbed his feet to eat him. The bridegroom pleaded to the crocodile to spare him for an hour, so that he will inform his newly wedded wife about the matter, and will come back for his grub. The crocodile agreed to his plea and said that in case he fails to come back he will be a sinner like a man who continues to eat when the light goes off. The bridegroom narrated every thing to her and she permitted him to go back to the river for the crocodile's grub. The lady stealthily followed her husband at a distance, with a lighted lamp in one hand and an empty basket in the other. When her husband entered the river and the crocodile was about to grab his leg, the lady put the basket over the lighted lamp as if the light is put off. The crocodile remembered his words and spared the lad, and permitted him to go back. So the lady with her sheer will power and intelligence saved the life of her husband.
The Astrologer father was perplexed as what went wrong in his calculation/ prediction despite of taking all precautionary measures to note the exact time of birth. He has clearly instructed to nurse to roll a lemon instantaneously when the child cries after the birth and he will stand behind the door and note the time of birth the moment he sees the lemon. He went back to the place of birth and noted the time taken for the lemon to reach the door from the delivery bed. And reworked her horoscope and calculation. Lo! He found that there were indications that the bridegroom would lose his life but for the mangalya bhagyam (longevity of married life) of the wife he will come back from the gallows of death.
The science of Astrology is not wrong but casting of horoscope / prediction makes all the difference.

10 things you don't know about NOKIA

10 things you don't know about NOKIA 1) The ringtone "Nokia tune" is actually based on a 19th century guitar work named "Gran Vals" by Spanish musician Francisco Tárrega. The Nokia Tune was originally named "Grande Valse" on Nokia phones but was changed to "Nokia Tune" around 1998 when it became so well known that people referred to it as the "Nokia Tune." 2) The world's first commercial GSM call was made in 1991 in Helsinki over a Nokia-supplied network, by Prime Minister of Finland Harri Holkeri, using a Nokia phone. 3) Nokia is currently the world's largest digital camera manufacturer, as the sales of its camera-equipped mobile phones have exceeded those of any conventional camera manufacturer. 4) The "Special" tone available to users of Nokia phones when receiving SMS (text messages) is actually Morse code for "SMS". Similarly, the "Ascending" SMS tone is Morse code for "Connecting People," Nokia's slogan. The "Standard" SMS tone is Morse code for "M" (Message). 5) The Nokia corporate font (typeface) is the AgfaMonotype Nokia Sans font, originally designed by Eric Spiekermann. Its mobile phone User's Guides Nokia mostly used the Agfa Rotis Sans font. 6) In Asia, the digit 4 never appears in any Nokia handset model number, because 4 is considered unlucky in many parts of Southeast/East Asia. 7) Nokia was listed as the 20th most admirable company worldwide in Fortune's list of 2006 (1st in network communications, 4th non-US company). 8. Unlike other modern day handsets, Nokia phones do not automatically start the call timer when the call is connected, but start it when the call is initiated. (Except for Series 60 based handsets like the Nokia 6600) 9) Nokia is sometimes called aikon (Nokia backwards) by non-Nokia mobile phone users and by mobile software developers, because "aikon" is used in various SDK software packages, including Nokia's own Symbian S60 SDK. 10) The name of the town of Nokia originated from the river which flowed through the town. The river itself, Nokianvirta, was named after the old Finnish word originally meaning sable, later pine marten. A species of this small, black-furred predatory animal was once found in the region, but it is now extinct.-- -- Trust God, he knows ur future. He may not reveal it to you but he will walk with you as the future unfolds. Don't trust the stars, trust the one who made them. Gud Day!.

Love secrets

What is Love?
In a classroom there were several kids, when one of them asked the teacher:- Teacher, what is LOVE ?The teacher felt the kid deserved the best answer she could give to that intelligent question। Since it was almost time for a break, she asked every student to go around the school and come back with something that would bring the feeling of love.The kids rushed out the classroom, and when they came back the teacher said:- So, I want everybody to show what you brought to the whole class.The first kid said:- I brought this FLOWER, isn’t it beautiful ?The second kid said:- I brought this BUTTERFLY. Look at these colorful wings, I am gonna put it in my collection !The third kid said:- I brought this YOUNG BIRD. It had fallen with another one from the nest. Isn’t it cute ?And the kids were showing what they brought.After almost everybody had showed their discoveries, the teacher noticed that there was a kid who had been quiet all the time. She was ashamed because she had not brought anything.The teacher went to her and asked:- My dear, why haven’t you brought anything ?She then answered in an innocent voice:- I am sorry teacher. I saw the FLOWER, and felt its perfume. I was going to take it, but I preffered to leave it so its perfume would last longer and others could feel it. I also saw the BUTTERFLY, soft, colorful॥she seemed so happy that I did not want to disturb it. I also saw the YOUNG BIRD that had fallen between the leafs, but as I climbed the tree, I noticed the said look of it’s mother, so I decided to return it to the nest. Therefore, I only bring with me: the perfume of the flower, the feeling of liberty of the butterfly and the gratefulness of the look of the little bird’s mother. How can I show you what I brought? The teacher thanked the young kid and gave her an A, because she was the only one that realized that we can only bring LOVE in our hearts.


Love storiez
True Love StoryIt's a cold February night। People are bustling through the streets, either pulling up their coat collars or wrapping scarves around their necks, trying to stay warm.It's so cold today.I'm standing at my window, looking at the people moving like little dots. Standing in a heated room, I'm beginning to pity those people. Why don't they go home? Do they plan on wandering until morning?"Almost time to go home! My boyfriend must be going crazy." One of the nurses breathe a sign of relief. "Still needs to work overtime on Valentine's Day. It's so unfair!""You are fortunate." Another nurse says. "Some people don't have anyone waiting for them.""You mean Dr. Shu?"Like Sherlock Holmes, my ears perk up when I hear my name."Do you remember how she lost control on this day last year?""Of course I do." A nurse shudders. "I've never seen Dr. Shu like that. Crying and yelling, like she was crazy."They are talking about how I was last year. They are correct. I was out of control, like they said."You can't blame Dr. Shu. If my boyfriend died in front of my eyes, I would probably go crazy as well.""Keep it down. She hasn't left work yet. She might hear you." The two nurses are too late I heard the entire conversation through the canvas wall."Dr. Shu, what are you doing standing here?"Just as I was deciding whether or not to reveal myself, another nurse exposed me. I awkwardly step out. The 2 nurses who discussed me start to blush. Their faces became redder than the bow on Valentine's Day chocolates."I'm waiting to go home." I pretend that I didn't hear anything."Dr. Shu, you must have gotten too involved in your work. It's already past time to go home. See you tomorrow. Happy Valentine's Day!" She waves goodbye."Happy Valentine's Day." I wave back and watch the 2 nurses hurry away.That's fine. I was ready to go home anyway Even though no lover is waitingFor me, at least there's a lazy cat waiting for me to feed.After I come home, the first thing I do is feed the cat. I forgot when I first had the cat. Probably since last year's Valentine's Day. At that time, I was like an abandoned cat, with eyes filled with despair. Cats don't cry, I do. That's the only difference."Better drink all the milk or I'll skin you." I threatened the cat. Her name is Christine, my least favorite English name. I don't know why I named the cat Christine. Christine meowed once to let me know she heard me, but her eyes are complaining about my severity. Her eyes remind me of someone I used to know, standing in front of me with eyes of rebellions.An year ago today, I had lunch with my boyfriend and took the opportunity to complain to him."Today is Valentine's Day. Why didn't you give me any flowers?"He raised his eyebrow. "Why should I give you flowers? You are not my anyone.""Then... You should at least give me a card!" I pouted my lips, hurt by his tone."I know, I know. After lunch, I'll send you an e-card."E-card. That sounds so impersonal, but that's the way he is. "You have to e-mail it to me. I'll be waiting." I excitedly smiled and planned to sneak home after lunch to check e-mail. Even though he wouldn't use any romantic words, I still looked forward to the card."I can't stand you women. Why do you make such a big deal out of Valentine's Day??" He grumbled while eating his food. His comment induced me to fight with him again."You are not romantic at all!! Don't you watch any Japanese drama?""Japanese drama? I only watch Discovery Channel.""Your life is so boring." I made a face at him. "One recent drama was really good. You should have watched it.""What's that drama called?" He didn't believe in the love portrayed in TV and movies. He always thought they were lies."It's called 'Story of A Century'." I gladly answered."What kind of trashy plot did it have?""What do you mean trash?? Show some respect!" I was so angry. "That drama was very touching, and the theme song was beautiful as well. It's called 'Only Love', performed by Nana Mouskouri." I wonder if he knew who Nana was."Nana, I know her. A Greek singer with really expensive albums.""Her voice is worth it." Even though I secretly agreed with him, I couldn't bring myself to admit it."Whatever." He glanced at his watch. "I'll give you 5 minutes to tell me the plot. After that, I'm leaving."I tried hard to explain 6 hours worth of story in just 5 minutes. The drama portrayed the love stories of 3 generations of women spanning 100 years, from 1901 to 2000. Each generation was portrayed by the same actress. The story was tear-jerking."What's so touching about it?" He asked, after listening to the story."Don't you think each generation's story is wonderful? If I have such great screen writing ability, I wouldn't be a doctor anymore. I would become a screenwriter. ""If you become a screenwriter, I bet no one would watch the show. The TV station can go out of business." He quickly interjected."I'm going back to work. Hurry and send me the card!" I was so mad that I went home immediately, not even finishing my coffee.As soon as I walked in my door, I turned on my computer and go online.Staring at the empty in-box, I began to reminisce about how we met. Maybe no one will believe me, but my boyfriend and I were actually neighbors. Our homes were only 1 wall away. Ever since we were kids, we liked to fight with each other all day long. I still remember when I moved to the country that year. Used to the city life, I couldn't get used to the simple life in the country. After school, I would just go home and do nothing. Whenever that happened, he would always come over to tease me."Why are you staring off into space??" He loved to pull on my hair. "You're so ugly when you're doing nothing. But you're also not pretty when you smile." In other words, I'm really ugly."You're the one who's ugly!" I pull back my hair. "If you think I'm so ugly, why do you visit me??""Can't help it. My home is right next to your home." He argued."Then I'll move!" The next day, I drew a line in the ground using some white chalk. A line that I forbid him to cross.That year, we were both in the 5th grade. We couldn't stand each other and hoped the other would move away. But 5 years passed, and neither of us moved. Not only that, we got into the same high school and into the same class"You're that infamous couple." All the students and teachers in the school would say whenever they saw us."We're not!" I always tried to explain. "We're only neighbors." At that time, I hated my parents for making us live next to him."My standard is not that low." He would say. "Who wants her to be a girlfriend?? It's not like I don't have eyes.""Yes, I know your eyes are on top of your head." I really disliked him. "Better than having eyes on the bottom of my head like you." He implied that I couldn't judge guys. At that time, I had a crush on a senior.I didn't think that his sarcasm had a hidden meaning. After a while, I found out that the senior student had lots of girlfriends. When I cried about it, he silently passed me a handkerchief and awkwardly held me in his arms."I told you he wasn't any good." He roughly comforted me. I cried in his arms the whole night, and began to see him in a different way. Things began to change between us. We still fought all the time, but he started to look at me differently And I blushed and my heart beat faster when he was near. We both knew: we fell in love with each other.Even with this knowledge, neither of us said anything. Even though we wouldnot be able to resist and kissed each other constantly. Even though we cared about each other's every moves. Both of us refused to admit our love.Time flew by quickly, and it was time to face separation. I chose to study medicine, and he chose physics. Yet we still couldn't separate from each other. Our parents worried that we didn't know anyone in Taipei, so they forced us to live in the same apartment building. Once again, we became neighbors. We still fought, but sometimes we fought into the bedroom. Alright, we became lovers, but we still wouldn't say we loved each other. We didn't even spend Valentine's Day together until he saw me share dinner with a man one Valentine's Day. That night, he waited for me in front of my door and said that he would take me out to dinner on Valentine's Day from then on. I have to say that he was very arrogant. But I nodded and accepted his request. Since then, we spent every Valentine's Day together. After graduation, I became an intern. He started a small computer company with some friends and became a programmer. We were busy with our own lives and had no timefor a relationship. Three years later, I became a doctor, and his business began to boom. We separately moved to biggerapartments and stopped being neighbors. On the surface, we left each other. In reality, we were still together. We spent every Valentine's Day together but each year became more dreary than the next because he never told me he loved me even with all my hints.Facing the empty in-box, I suddenly grew very angry. He wouldn't say it and wouldn't send me a card. What did he mean? Who did he think I was? I called his cell phone."Hello." He picked up the phone."I didn't receive the card." I immediately showed my displeasure."You didn't receive it?" He seemed really busy. "But I sent it."He was really busy but I didn't care. "I didn't receive it. Send it again.""Okay, I'll send you 100 times. Is that good enough??" He said with impatience. His tone further infuriated me. Is that how lovers speak to each other?"Don't bother sending it to me. And you don't have to pick me up tonight.I'll eat dinner by myself.""Don't be childish, ok? I'm really busy.""I AM childish!" I hung up the phone and tears rolled down my cheeks.Childish?? Why didn't he consider the situation? We've gone out for so many years and spent countless Valentine's Day together. I never received any flowers nor cards from him. Now, I just want a little e-card. Is that too much to ask for??I unplugged the phone from the wall and turned off my cell phone. I didn't want to hear his explanations. After I returned to the hospital, I instructed the receptionist not to forward me any phone calls. I wanted to concentrate on work.Because there were so many emergencies today, I was sweating 1 hour later and forgot about our argument."Dr. Shu, please take a look at that patient."As I was collecting my equipment, the shrill sound of an ambulance sounded outside the ER. When I stepped out the door, the emergency medics hurriedly wheeled in a gurney."What happened to him?" I asked the 1st medic. Everyone else were trying to help put the patient on the gurney. He was covered with blood."Car accident." The medic replied. "Very serious. He may die."I nodded and ran to the operating room with them. When I arrived, the nurses told me that the man had already stopped breathing and also his heartbeat also stopped"Prepare for shock." I calmly instructed the nurses. Saving people is our duty. We can't lose our calm.But when I saw who laid on the operating table, I lost my calm. That person was my boyfriend!"No॥" I stood in shock. "NO!!!" I grabbed the paddles and continuously shocked his body. His body bounced up and down from the shocks. The scared nurses went to find another doctor, to tell him that I was crazy.I didn't know if I was crazy or not. I just wanted to save my lover. Even though we fought all the time. Even though he never showed me his love. I still wanted to save him. He still owed me a card. He couldn't die! I threw away the paddles and began to press on his heart. I pressed with all my strength, hoping it would revive him, but he didn't wake up. He didn't even say "It hurts" He just laid there with his eyes closed, punishing me with his silence.Dr. Jian angrily pushed me away. By that time, I couldn't see clearly anymore. I cried. I wailed. I bowled until no sounds could come out of my mouth."It's too late, Dr. Shu. He's already dead. I'm sorry." Dr. Jian patted me on the shoulder. They knew each other and ate together once. I introduced them."He can't die." I shook my head. "He can't die!!" I struggled to run to him."Dr. Shu, control yourself!" Dr. Jian slapped me. "I understand what you're going through, but you're a doctor."Yes, I'm a doctor, but I'm also a regular person. How can Dr. Jian understand how I feel? I've loved him for so many years that it's become a habit. How can I just throw away a habit? Besides, he still owed me a card. "I want him to live! I want him to live!" I ran to him again and tried to knock the life back into his body."Take her away!" That day, I lost my control and my professionalism.And that day happened to be Valentine's Day.Afterwards, I asked his co-workers why he left work early that day.They told me that after I hung up the phone, he tried to call me several times but couldn't reach me. Worried, he drove to the hospital to find me and got hit by a large truck on the way.When I heard this, I froze. My tantrum killed him. Just because of an unmailed card, he died. After that, I lost my privilege to be childish.Like an abandoned cat, I couldn't even cry anymore. After his death, I couldn't cry anymore, regardless of how touching the plot or how tear-jerking the dialogue. They didn't affect me anymore.Now, I'm only left with a cat and a seldomly used computer. Stepping over the cat, I turned on the computer. Even though I know no one will send me a mail, I still hoped that someone will remember me on this day.Meow, meow. I looked at Christine to see what's wrong. She finished her milk. I went into the kitchen to get her more milk then came back to look at the computer screen.I have.... 100 emails! Who would be bored enough to send me 100 junk mail?I was just about to delete them all when I received another mail, and this one said: "Because of system error, we could not send these until today.We apologize for the delay." The sender was my ISP.I looked at the 1st mail. It showed the send date is last year's Valentine's Day. My heart began to beat fast. Could he have sent these?With a trembling hand, I opened the mail. The first thing that popped up was a gorgeous red rose set against green leaves. Then a beautiful melody began to play.... "Only Love". I couldn't believe it. The rose was so beautiful and the music was so dreamy. I almost thought I was in a fantasy. Most touching of all were the words underneath the rose, because the words read like a beautiful poem."Hwei."That's my name."Knowing you so many years, I've never sent you any flowers. Today I send you a rose."I received it and it's so beautiful."You know we are always fighting. We can never really open our hearts and tell each other how we feel."Yes, but it's all your fault for being so distant."I know I always make you mad by the things I say."Good that you're admitting it."But today I want to say to you: I'm sorry, and I love you."I waited so many years for those words."And I want to tell you a good news. I finally saved enough money."You already have enough money. Why did you need so much?"So Hwei, let's get married!! I was afraid to propose to you, because I didn't trust in my ability to give you the good life you deserve. But now I've saved enough money so we don't have to wait anymore."Who wanted you to wait? I'm already yours."Today, I use this card to propose to you. Will you marry me, Hwei? Will you?"That's the content of the whole card. Like a fool, I kept reading his words and talking to him. It's like I can hear his voice and see him again.As if it's back to 1 year ago with us constantly fighting.The song played over and over. Repeating Nana's heartbreaking voice.Only love can make a memory. Only love can make a moment last. You were there and all the world was young and all it's songs unsung. and I remember you then when love was all, all you were living for,and how you gave that love to me...."The lyrics of this song fits our love so closely. When he was alive, my world was so young. Every day, I could find a something different to fight with him about. But after he left, my life is only left with memories and coldness that will never go away."Will you marry me?"When I read these words, my tears unconsciously came, wetting the keyboard.Will I? If he's in front of me, I will definitely kick him and call him a big fool. If I wasn't willing, I wouldn't have waited until today.So I moved the cursor over the "Reply" box, and typed the response that I've already prepared for so many years - "I will."I will - be by his side for the rest of my life. I will - fight with him forever. That is how I answered him, but the only response I got was the repeating song "Only Love."Nevertheless, I opened every single letter, accepted every singled rose, and typed the same response: "I will."I replied 100 times, and "Only Love" played 100 times. In this cold Valentine's night, the line that's been broken for 1 year finally got reconnected.I answered you. What about you?



The Secrets..... .......The Power....... ...... * The First Secret: The power of Love.Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help recognize him or her when you meet.* The Second Secret: The power of Respect.You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself,"What do I respect about myself? " To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, "What do I respect about them?"* The Third Secret: The power of Giving.If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and Unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of you can take.* The Fourth Secret: The power of Friendship.To find true love you must first find a true friend. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are not what they look like. Friendship is theSoil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.* The Fifth Secret: The power of Touch.Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states andMakes us more receptive to love.* The Sixth Secret: The power of Letting go.If you love something, let it be free. Even in a loving relationship, people need their space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgiveAnd let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.* The Seventh Secret: The power of Communication.To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know; that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say, "I love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise and acknowledge someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word ... It could be the last time you see them. * The Eighth Secret: The power of Commitment.If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragileRelationship from a strong, loving one.* The Ninth Secret: The power of Passion.Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone. It comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. The essence of love and happiness are the same, all we need to do is to live each day with passion.* The Tenth Secret: The power of Trust.You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. Trust is essential inAll loving relationships. Trust yourself, trust others and trust the world. It is the foundation for LOVE. Always make your absenceFelt in such a way That...Some one misses you BUT...Let not your absence be so longgggTHAT some one starts learning to live WITHOUT YOU......

Spiritual Questions and Answers

Sri Muralidhara swamy Answers to Questions on Prarabda Karma , Soul, Death ,Moksha , etc .
1. What is * Prarabdha Karma* ? How does it interfere in one's life? Everything in one's life happens because of *Prarabdha Karma* ( accumulated Karmic reactions of the past) and nothing else. So it is not a question of interference in one's life, it is that which drives one's life. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -----2. Do thoughts that do not translate into actions count towards Karma? That is, does a bad thought count towards a negative Karma? Also, do good thoughts and intentions that do not necessarily translate into actions count towards good Karma?In this Kali-Yuga, there are no punishments for bad thoughts. However, a continuous stream of bad thoughts will make a strong impression in you (vasana), which will harm you at a later point in time, if not immediately. How ever good thoughts will always result in good results. ____________ _________ _________ _________ _3. Is Karma applicable to animals too? Is there any difference on Karma effects on man and women separately?Karma is the same for men and women. As for animals, the animal birth occurs only to experience the effects of the Karma carried over from the previous birth. During the lifetime of the animal, the Karma is not accumulated. ____________ _________ _________ _________ _4. When every soul is independent and governed by its own Karma takes rebirth accordingly, what is the need for performing * Pithru Karma* for the Parents who are only instruments for our birth ? Every action, from the minutest to the largest, happens according to the will and wish of Bhagavan Sri Krishna.Still, even in our day-to-day life, as we travel in a bus, when someone offers us a seat, we immediately thank them.Thus, for all the incidents in our life - mundane to major, we thank others to show our gratitude. The same holds good for our Parents too.------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -5. At what stage in the birth process does the soul attach to the body? Is it at the moment of conception, the moment of delivery, or sometime in between? Does a soul start to wield its Karma on the new body even when the fetus is inside the mother's womb? If so, shouldn't the astrological time of birth be the time when the soul attaches to the body?This has been clearly spoken about in Srimad Bhagavatam in the chapters where the conversation between Kapila Vasudevan and his mother Devahuti takes place. There is astounding similarities between what is mentioned in the Scriptures and what is discovered by modern science. As far as Vedic Astrology is concerned, it is bothered only about the time when the baby comes to earth, that is the time of delivery. The other factors don't matter in Astrology. ____________ _________ _________ _________ _6. Where does the soul reside in the human body and the body of plants, animals and other creatures?Soul is not an object or organ to identify a place in the body of humans or other creatures. It is an infinite source of energy.A comparison, though not the most appropriate, could be drawn to the electric current that passes through a device. However there is an origin for that power. In human body, it has been said that the location of that point is the region just medial the right nipple, if a line can be drawn connecting the two nipples. At this point, it appears spiral in shape.In the same way, the location varies for different creatures.------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -----7. What is the form of the 'Soul'? Does it have a gender?The soul is like a small flame in size and shape. It does not have a gender. Having said this, it is also true that it can be manifested to you as a form, based on the power of your mind.____________ _________ _________ _________ _8. I want to know about my death. What is death? I want to experience my death. I want to be aware of my death. As long as the life-force (`Prana') is inside your body, you are said to be alive. The moment that the *Prana* leaves your body to take another body is called death. The death of the body is not the real death. Even in medical science, it has been proved that real death is not the death of the body, but the death of the mind. From a spirituality perspective, real death is when you realize God, or realize the Self within you. That is because, it is only after then that you are not born anymore. Hence that is the real death. ____________ _________ _________ _________ _ 9. I understand that when a person dies, he will be reborn depending on his merits. Do ceremonies like `Shrarddha' or `Tarpanam' go to him? It is true that the Soul takes rebirth based on the Karma. However, it resides in the *Pitru Loka* before taking rebirth. As long as it is in one of the different Lokas, these ceremonies will benefit it. Once the soul takes rebirth, these ceremonies will not benefit it. These ceremonies will help the soul only to some extent. It cannot help the soul attain liberation. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- ---------10. "We showed the horoscopes of all in the family to a good astrologer. After reading through all the horoscopes he says that an unnatural death (`dur-marana' ) has occurred in the family. But, to our knowledge no such death has taken place in our family. What is the reason for the astrologer to say this?" "In today's world unnatural deaths can occur even without our knowledge. Having conceived a child many people abort it, through modern medical aid, as they decide against having a child. Even these are certainly murders; unnatural deaths; murder of a fetus. Such occurrences might have taken place in your family without your knowledge; or even if you had knowledge of it you would not have considered it as a murder." ____________ _________ _________ _________ _11. "If it were so what is the expiation for this?" "Normally, the only expiation for such unnatural deaths that take place knowingly or unknowingly is the `shrãddha' that is performed in Gaya Kshetra. The `pinda' offered in `Vishnu Pãda' here is given to the `pitrus' by none other than Vishnu Himself and He takes them ashore. Moreover, in Gaya we can offer `pinda' for anyone - to someone known to us, friends, teachers, neighbours, co-travellers, orphans, etc. It is said that a man begets many sons only with the thought, `Atleast one of them would certainly go to Gaya and offer `pinda' for me.' " ____________ _________ _________ _________ _12. "Has anything been said in the Vedas about the `gati' (state) that a `jiva' attains after death?"
"The different states that are attained by the `Jiva' is detailed in the Upanishads. There are two kinds of state (`Avasthai') for all creatures, beginning from Brahma to a tiny insect. One is drinking and the other is eating. The one who dies with the thought that he is verily the `Sarîra' (body) is reborn as any one of these creatures. The one who dies with the thought that he is verily the `Prãna' (breath), i.e. those who control their mind and take it on the path of dharma and thus earn `punya (good merits), attains the heaven (`swarga'). The one who dies with the thought that he is verily the `arivu' (intellect) attains the higher worlds (`Lokãs'). The one who goes beyond this and annihilates the mind realizing that he is verily the `Ãtma' becomes Jivan Mukta (Liberated while yet living in the body). All these have been said in the Upanishads!" ____________ _________ _________ _________ _13. Is organ donation after death acceptable according to Vedic religion? Organ donation is done as a social cause, with the welfare of someone in mind. So from this viewpoint, it is acceptable. ____________ _________ _________ _________ _14. Are Mukti and Moksha one and the same?Yes they are one and the same.____________ _________ _________ _________ _15. When do we get Moksha? Which is better -- Family Life ('Illaram') or Ascetic Life ('thuravaram' )?You are already in Moksha. You have to just remove that veil of ignorance ('that you are not in Moksha'). This is possible by chanting the Maha Mantra – Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare, Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare Continuously, which was verily propagated by Sri Chaitanya Maha Prabhu. Illaram ('family life') is the best.

I BET YOU WILL ENJOY THIS ALL THE WAY

I BET YOU WILL ENJOY THIS ALL THE WAY!Sardar bought a new mobile.He called everyone from his Phone Book & said 'My Mobile No. haschanged. Earlier it was Nokia 3310 Now it is 6610'------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- ------------Santa : I am a Proud Sardar, My son is in Medical College.Banta : Really, what is he studying,Santa : No he is not studying, they are Studying him. --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- ----What is Common between : Krishna, Ram, Gandhiji & Jesus..?Sardar ji Replied : All are Born on Government Holidays. ----------- --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -------------Santa falls in luv with a nurse...After muchthinking, he finally writes a love letter to her: 'I luv u sister.'------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- ------------Pappu, while filling up a form: Dad, what should I write for mothertongue.?Santa: Very long!************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* *************Santa went out to buy an Indian flag.The shop owner gave him the flag.Guess what did he ask next... Ismein aur colour dikhayiye. ************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa went to battery shop n asked to change battery..The shopkeeper asked: Exide laga du?Santa: Dusri side tera baap lagayega kya?************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Frog: Tumhare paas dimaag nahin hai.Santa: Hai.Frog: Nahin hai.Santa: Hai.Frog: Nahin hai & jumps into the well.Santa: Isme suicide karne waali kya baat thi.?************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa was caught for speeding and went before the judge.The judge: What'll you take 30 days or Rs 3000.Santa: I think I'll take the money. ************ ********* ********* ********* ** ******* *********Q: How do you recognize Santa's son, Pappu, in School?A: He is the one who erases the books when the teacher erases the board.************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa standing on platform suddenly jumps on the railway track.Banta: Santa u'll die.Santa: No, u'll die b'coz haven't u heard train is coming on platform?************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Q: A Man a sked Santa, 'Akal badhi ya bhains? 'A: Santa bola, 'Pehle date of birth to batao.'************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Q: Why was Santa writing the exam near the door?A: Because it was an entrance exam.************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********What's Ford?Santa: Gaadi.What's Oxford?Santa: So simple, Bail Gaadi ************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa: My dad was an extremely brave man. He once entered a lion's cage.Banta: He probably got a lot of applause when he got out.Santa: I didn't say he got out.************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa found answer to the most difficult question ever- What comes first - the chicken or the egg?O yaar, jiska order pehle doge, vo ayega!************ ********* ********* ********* ********* *********Santa (reading from book of facts):'Do you know that every time I breathe a man dies?'Banta: 'Why don't you use a mouth wash?'

Excellent article on cancer

AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRY AND ELIMINATE CANCER, JOHNS HOPKINS IS FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THERE IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY .
Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins :

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.
WHAT CANCER CELLS FEED ON:
a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.
b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soy milk, cancer cells are being starved.
c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to no urish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrified and leads to more toxic buildup.
13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.
14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.
15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.
16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

value of acknowledment

This is one of the nicest e-mails I have come across and is so true: I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels.My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, 'This Is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are Received.' I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section. The angel then said to me, 'This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them.'I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to EarthFinally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the Door of a very small station To my great surprise, only one angel was Seated there, idly doing nothing. 'This is the Aknowledgment Section,' My angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed 'How Is it that there is no work going on here?' I asked. 'So sad,' the angel sighed. 'After people receive the blessings that they asked For, very few send back acknowledgments .' 'How does one acknowledge God's blessings?' I asked. 'Simple,' the angel answered. Just say, 'Thank you, Lord.''What blessings should they acknowledge? ' I asked.'If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world.. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy .' 'And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity. 'Also .' If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ... You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day .' 'If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation .. You are ahead of 700 million people in the world.' ;'If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair.' Ok, what now? How can I start?If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all. Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you want, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.ATTN: Acknowledge Dept.: 'Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people to share it with.

Mrs.Menon..a Tribute to a great Piano Teacher..

1986We had just moved to Madras from NIgeria!My elder daughter had started practising Piano in NIgeria from Mr.Abadu,a calm,intelligent,Ghanian who was a lso a Teacher in a nearby school in Ijebuode..In a few years my elder daughter started showing some reall skills on the Piano..and hence my younger one also started meddling with this instrument!Luckily my elder daughter got into Church Park in 6th std and we were looking for a reliable Piano Teacher,who can improve on her Saharan skills!After a lot of recommendations,Mrs.Menon,a Tall,businesslike,strict disciplinarian decided to "try" my daughter for a year or two and "if my daughter was not upto her expectations she might not continue.."Every year Mrs.Menon saw to it that my daughter not only learnt the rudiments of this instrument but insisted on her taking the Trinity college of Music ,London Examns too..both in Theory and Practice...If my daughter was late by 5 mts for her classes at 2:30PM,thats all,not only the class was missed,a highly irritated Mrs.Menon wd shout at my daughter"This is the last warning.."..many good teachers do that out of their real affection for a smart kid...My daughter passed all the 11 grades both in Theory and Practice from Trinity college of music and she was able to keep the "Cecil Goshin shield"(instituted in 1921)fora continuous period of 3 years which was a proud moment for Mrs.Menon as there were many students appearing for the Trnity examns every year.1987...I was on a trip to Europe when my daughter asked me"Pappa,can you get me a Metronom?"I asked"what?is it a weather forecasting instrument?"She explained to me by beating me with a stick what it is!I detoured to Salzburg and bought one from MOzart's House(there was a shop in front of the well preserved Mozart's house..which is a museum now)in the meantime both my daughters formed a very very importtant core group for a Choir also run by Mrs.Menon and both were outshining each other in the Piano examns.Mrs.Menon's Choir for Xmas in English club was always a treat to watch for it was totally a different type of songs with dedicated Young & old combine full of zeal and scintillating songs!1992..When I was on a trip to London,my elder daughter again asked me this time:"Pappa,if you have time..can you call on Mrs.Juliet HUnter,the General administrator of Trinity college?""Why?" I asked.."She only asked me to apply for this Prestigious Hanam Clarke award which carrys $2000 and a rare certificate.."I said OK.When I visited Mrs.Juliet Hunter,she was not only very very happy to recieve "Surianarain F/O Charu from Madras" but asked me:"Dont you know what this Hannam Clarke award means?""No Idea?""See I have been watching the performance of your daughter,Charu from the 8th Grade..outstanding.She is really a Prodigy.This Hannam Clarke award is given to the Top most student who has been continuously First in the 8th/9th/10th grades and this year there were 3 contenders out of 40000 students who competed for the 10th Grade..20000 from USA alone...Amidst all these your daughter has come up First along with another Srilankan(I remeber her name as Gayatri)..Thats why I asked Charu to apply for this Hannam Clarke award..One has to apply to get it.."It took me a minute to realise whats happening..for a pure Madurai Mani Aiyer fanatic!Mrs.Hunter was kind enough to take xerox copies of the competents for the award along with the final outcome..namely Charu suri & Gayatri..!!I said "I am very very grateful to you for this kindness indeed!""No not at all.She deserves it.I will be happy to help her further if she wants to pursue her PIano too.."1993Charu wanted to apply for all IVY leagues and she wanted some goos references..she wrote to Juliet Hunter..Juilet Hunter sent such wonderful letters to all the IVY schools,that my daughter was easily walking into almost all schools with full scholarship..tho' she chose Princeton of all...My younger one also passed all the Trinity examns in flying colors and because of Mrs.Menon's choir,she became,probably the First Indian ever the leading Soprano in Radcliffe choir,where she was singing till her Masters..Today I am not writing this to boast about them..as a True son of a Teacher,one must remember this soul Mrs.Menon..who passed away Yesterday!Her discipline and dedication amazes me..She was always kind to my daughters..She was always there to correct even a small mistake..She was always there to attend all my daughters' concerts at Maxmueller Bhavan..We miss her guidance..May her soul rest in peace!

EIGHT LIES OF A MOTHER - Inspiring one



~EIGHT LIES OF A MOTHER~ 1.The story began when I was a child; I was born as a son of a poor family. Even for eating, we often got lack of food. Whenever the time for eating, mother often gave me her portion of rice. While she was removing her rice into my bowl, she would say "Eat this rice, son. I'm not hungry". That was Mother's First Lie 2.When I was getting to grow up, the persevering mother gave her spare time for fishing in a river near our house, she hoped that from the fishes she got, she could gave me a little bit nutritious food for my growth. After fishing, she would cook the fishes to be a fresh fish soup, which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the rest meat of fish, which was still on the bone of the fish I ate. My heart was touched when I saw it. I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her. But she immediately refused it and said "Eat this fish, son. I don't really like fish." That was Mother's Second Lie. 3.Then, when I was in Junior High School, to fund my study, mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-matches boxes that would be stuck in. It gave her some money for covering our needs. As the winter came, I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awoke, supported by a little candlelight and within her perseverance she continued the work of sticking some used-matches box. I said, "Mother, go to sleep, it's late, tomorrow morning you still have to go for work. " Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep, dear. I'm not tired." That was Mother's Third Lie. 4.At the time of final term, mother asked for a leave from her work in order to accompany me. While the daytime was coming and the heat of the sun was starting to shine, the strong and persevering mother waited for me under the heat of the sun's shine for several hours. As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished, mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a glass of tea that she had prepared before in a cold bottle. The very thick tea was not as thick as my mother's love, which was much thicker. Seeing my mother covering with perspiration, I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too. Mother said "Drink, son. I'm not thirsty!". That was Mother's Fourth Lie. 5.After the death of my father because of illness, my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent. By held on her former job, she had to fund our needs alone. Our family's life was more complicated. No days without sufferance. Seeing our family's condition that was getting worse, there was a nice uncle who lived near my house came to help us, either in a big problem and a small problem. Our other neighbors who lived next to us saw that our family's life was so unfortunate, they often advised my mother to marry again. But mother, who was stubborn, didn't care to their advice, she said "I don't need love." That was Mother's Fifth Lie. 6.After I had finished my study and then got a job, it was the time for my old mother to retire. But she didn't want to; she was sincere to go to the marketplace every morning, just to sell some vegetable for fulfilling her needs. I, who worked in the other city, often sent her some money to help her in fulfilling her needs, but she was stubborn for not accepting the money. She even sent the money back to me. She said "I have enough money." That was Mother's Sixth Lie. 7.After graduated from Bachelor Degree, I then continued my study to Master Degree. I took the degree, which was funded by a company through a scholarship program, from a famous University in America . I finally worked in the company. Within a quite high salary, I intended to take my mother to enjoy her life in America . But my lovely mother didn't want to bother her son, she said to me "I'm not used to." That was Mother's Seventh Lie. 8.After entering her old age, mother got a flank cancer and had to be hospitalized. I, who lived in miles away and across the ocean, directly went home to visit my dearest mother. She lied down in weakness on her bed after having an operation. Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep yearn. She tried to spread her smile on her face; even it looked so stiff because of the disease she held out. It was clear enough to see how the disease broke my mother's body, thus she looked so weak and thin. I stared at my mother within tears flowing on my face. My heart was hurt, so hurt, seeing my mother on that condition. But mother, with her strength, said "Don't cry, my dear. I'm not in pain." That was Mother's Eight Lie. After saying her eighth lie, She closed her eyes forever!

Poem by Mother Teresa

Poem by Mother Teresa This poem was written by Mother Teresa and is engraved on the wall of her home. People are often unreasonable, illogical & self-centred; Forgive them anyway.If you are kind, people may accuse you of being selfish, ulterior motives;Be kind anyway.If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some trueenemies;Succeed anyway.If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;Be honest and frank anyway.What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight:Build anyway.If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;Do good anyway.Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;It was never between you and them anyway.

Relationship between husband and wife

Relationship between husband and wife



Relationship between husband and wife is mostly influenced on account of undue interference of people. Many a time the reason could be even very close people like in-laws or other close associates. It is rarely that the relation gets strained because of personal reasons, such differences certainly crop up, as part of life and are amicably settled with time, couples mostly do not pay much attention to such issues, as they realize that the cause is momentary and forgettable, unless one is adamant on one’s point and its approval, such trivial issues are overlooked before it explodes and that is what is recommended and correct. The bitterness is generated at times because somebody attempts to disturb the harmony of the couple. The subjects intention may be to harm but they invariably damage relationship with their unwanted interventions, the person does not really appreciate that he has no place among the two mature adults unless sought for, whatever could be the relationship yet the person is always a third person between a couple.

Actually ideal way is always to refrain from interfering in anybodies personal life, this is nothing but a cause of unnecessary conflict between the couple as this may be truly disturbing to the couple, the couple remains perplexed and is oblivious of situations. The person intervening is indeed a distorting element, what it? He or She is in intimate relationship or in authoritative relationship. Such person is odd man out and is a cause of conflicts that can ruin relationship between the two, the unwanted adviser may also get rejected for ever. Emotional persons always have problems in such situations; such persons are sensitive, possessive to comments, behaviours and must be handled with care.

Our purpose of suggesting anything to anybody may be probably good but we must evaluate the status and then only proceed. Is it advisable and proper to offer assistance, or showing of concerns, especially if the same is unsolicited? How does this advice benefit the person unless mentally one is prepared to adhere, absorb the so called suggestions? They say even charity as well appears and proves good when the same is provided to the right prospect, so, why offer, and disturb the mutual relations of a couple at the expense of disturbing their self esteem.

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Disorder in the Court - goood!!!! These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now published by court reporters who had the torment of staying calm while these exchanges were actually taking place. ________________________________________________ATTORNEY: She had three children, right?WITNESS: Yes. ATTORNEY: How many were boys?WITNESS: None.ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?WITNESS: Are you shittin' me? Your Honor, I think I need a different attorney. Can I get a new attorney?________________________________________________ ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?WITNESS: By death.ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?WITNESS: Now whose death do you suppose terminated it? ________________________________________________ ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual? WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard.ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?WITNESS: Guess.________________________________________________ATTORNEY: Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition notice which I sent to your attorney? WITNESS: No, this is how I dress when I go to work.________________________________________________ATTORNEY: Doctor, how many of your autopsies have you performed on dead people? WITNESS: All my autopsies are performed on dead people. Would you like to rephrase that?________________________________________________ ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school did you go to? WITNESS: Oral.________________________________________________ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body? WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 p.m.ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?WITNESS: No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I was doing an autopsy on him! ________________________________________________ ATTORNEY: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all? WITNESS: Yes.ATTORNEY: And in what ways does it affect your memory?WITNESS: I forget. ATTORNEY: You forget? Can you give us an example of something you forgot? ________________________________________________ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that morning? WITNESS: He said, "Where am I, Cathy?" ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you? WITNESS: My name is Susan!_____________________________________________--- And the best for last: --- ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse? WITNESS : No.ATTORNEY : Did you check for blood pressure?WITNESS : No.ATTORNEY : Did you check for breathing? WITNESS: No.ATTORNEY : So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?WITNESS : No.ATTORNEY : How can you be so sure, Doctor?WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar. ATTORNEY : I see, but could the patient have still been alive, nevertheless? WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law.

The much hyped Apple's iPhone, whether its 3G or not, lacks some features what almost all low-end phones offer.

1. There is no option to record video 2. Only 2 mega pixel camera (but pictures taken with iphone are clearer than what you expect with 2 mega pixel camera) 3. No flash or optical zoom 4. Cannot forward text message 5. No option to send SMS to multiple contacts 6. No voice dialing 7. No cut-copy-paste options 8. Cannot even select a line of text to delete it 9. Cannot delete mails or photos in one go. One has to delete them one by one 10. Users cannot replace iPhone battery. One has to send it to Apple outlet for this 11. No support for wireless modem. User cannot connect to PC and surf internet. 12. iPhone can't sync with Bluetooth stereo or in-car Bluetooth handsfree 13. It lacks A2DP on Bluetooth. A2DP audio devices, such as stereo Bluetooth headsets, offer high quality listening ability.
14. Surprisingly user cannot share MP3, images and video files via Bluetooth. Half of the fun gone! 15. There is no support for Adobe Flash in 3G iPhone. Though, Adobe says it is working on iPhone Flash. 16. Users cannot get all YouTube video, but only a few selected ones that have been rolled out for the Apple-favored H.264 video codec. So, this means you can't go on sharing your videos.
17. iPhone doesn't offer ringtone customization. As a result user cannot set SMS alert tones. Only two options ring or silent.
18. Users cannot download ringtones from anywhere except iTunes.

After knowing about these missing features, do u like to buy iPhone at a cost of Rs. 30,000 /-. Source: http://infotech.indiatimes.com/quickiearticleshow/3384450.cms

The much hyped Apple's iPhone, whether its 3G or not, lacks some features what almost all low-end phones offer.

1. There is no option to record video 2. Only 2 mega pixel camera (but pictures taken with iphone are clearer than what you expect with 2 mega pixel camera) 3. No flash or optical zoom 4. Cannot forward text message 5. No option to send SMS to multiple contacts 6. No voice dialing 7. No cut-copy-paste options 8. Cannot even select a line of text to delete it 9. Cannot delete mails or photos in one go. One has to delete them one by one 10. Users cannot replace iPhone battery. One has to send it to Apple outlet for this 11. No support for wireless modem. User cannot connect to PC and surf internet. 12. iPhone can't sync with Bluetooth stereo or in-car Bluetooth handsfree 13. It lacks A2DP on Bluetooth. A2DP audio devices, such as stereo Bluetooth headsets, offer high quality listening ability.
14. Surprisingly user cannot share MP3, images and video files via Bluetooth. Half of the fun gone! 15. There is no support for Adobe Flash in 3G iPhone. Though, Adobe says it is working on iPhone Flash. 16. Users cannot get all YouTube video, but only a few selected ones that have been rolled out for the Apple-favored H.264 video codec. So, this means you can't go on sharing your videos.
17. iPhone doesn't offer ringtone customization. As a result user cannot set SMS alert tones. Only two options ring or silent.
18. Users cannot download ringtones from anywhere except iTunes.

After knowing about these missing features, do u like to buy iPhone at a cost of Rs. 30,000 /-. Source: http://infotech.indiatimes.com/quickiearticleshow/3384450.cms
For all who love eating MaggiDO NOT IGNORE THIS ....... Especially those fond of Maggi......'CORRECT WAY OF COOKING NOODLES'The correct way to cook instant noodles without harming our bodies andhealth. `Normally, how we cook the instant noodles is to put the noodlesinto a pot with water, throw in the powder and let it cook for around 3minutes and then it's ready to eat.This is the WRONG method of cooking the instant noodles.By doing this, when we actually boil the ingredients in the powder,normally with MSG, it will change the molecular structures of the MSGcausing it to be toxic.The other thing that you may or may not realize is that, the noodles arecoated with wax and it will take around 4 to 5 days for the body toexcrete the wax after you have taken the noodles.CORRECT METHOD :1. boil the noodles in a pot with water.2. once the noodles is cooked, take out the noodles, and throw away thewater which contains wax.3. boil another pot of water till boiling and put the noodles into thehot boiling water and then shut the fire.4. only at this stage when the fire is off, and while the water is veryhot, put the ingredient with the powder into the water, to make noodlesoup.5. however, if you need dry noodles, take out the noodles and add theingredient with the powder and toss it to get dry noodles.Dietician's Note: If you buy plain hakka noodles which you makeinitially need to boil in water and discard the water. This will softenthe noodles but to prevent it from sticking we need to add a tbsp of oiland also the noodles are deep fried partially to make it crunchy andthen dusted with flour to prevent it from sticking while boiling.Hence when you buy the noodles they are already made unhealthy and thisis the type we use to make stir fry noodles and the regular maggi too ismade the same way plus they add MSG/ ajinomoto and other chemicalpreservatives.A large number of patient with the ages ranging from 18-24 years areending up with pancreatitis either as a swelling or infection of thepancreas due to regular consumption of instant noodles.... If thefrequency is more than 3 times a week, then it is very hazardous...Please share this info and help save a life.

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Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many friends you have Or how accepted you are. Not about if you have plans this weekend orif you're alone. It isn't about who you're dating, who you used to date,how many people you've dated,or if you haven't been with anyone at all. It isn't about who your family is or how much money they have, Or what kind of car you drive. It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are. Or what clothes you wear, what shoes you have, Or what kind of music you listen to. It's not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown, Or if your skin is too light or too dark. Not about what grades you get how smart you are,how smart everybody else thinks you are, or how smart standardized tests say you are. It's not about what clubs you're in or how good you are at "your" sport. It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will "accept the written you." Life just isn't.
The Life IsBut, life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully. It's about keeping or betraying trust. It's about friendship, used as a sanctity or a weapon. It's about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful,maybe heartening. It's about what judgments you pass and why. And who your judgments are spread to. It's about who you've ignored with full control and intention. It's about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge. It's about carrying inner hate and love, letting it grow and spreading it. But most of all, it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts in such a way that could have never occurred alone.
Only you choose the way those hearts are affected,and those choices are what life's all about।


You are Wonderful
The following true story captured our heart.. It happened several years ago in the Paris opera house. A famous singer had been contracted to sing, and ticket sales were booming. In fact, the night of the concert found the house packed and every ticket sold.
The feeling of anticipation and excitement was in the air as the house manager took the stage and said, "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your enthusiastic support. I am afraid that due to illness, the man whom you've all come to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute we hope will provide you with comparable entertainment."
The crowd groaned in disappointment and failed to hear the announcer mention the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration.
The stand-in performer gave the performance everything he had. When he had finished, there was nothing but an uncomfortable silence. No one applauded.
Suddenly, from the balcony, a little boy stood up and shouted, "Daddy, I think you are wonderful!" The crowd broke into thunderous applause.
We all need people in our Lives who are willing to stand up once in a while and say, "I think you are wonderful. "


You are Wonderful
The following true story captured our heart.. It happened several years ago in the Paris opera house. A famous singer had been contracted to sing, and ticket sales were booming. In fact, the night of the concert found the house packed and every ticket sold.
The feeling of anticipation and excitement was in the air as the house manager took the stage and said, "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your enthusiastic support. I am afraid that due to illness, the man whom you've all come to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute we hope will provide you with comparable entertainment."
The crowd groaned in disappointment and failed to hear the announcer mention the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration.
The stand-in performer gave the performance everything he had. When he had finished, there was nothing but an uncomfortable silence. No one applauded.
Suddenly, from the balcony, a little boy stood up and shouted, "Daddy, I think you are wonderful!" The crowd broke into thunderous applause.
We all need people in our Lives who are willing to stand up once in a while and say, "I think you are wonderful. "

Powerful Stories

Some time ago, there lived a King.This king should have been contented with his life, given all the riches and luxuries he had. However, this was not the case! The King always found himself wondering why he just never seemed content with his life.

Sure, he had the attention of everyone wherever he went, attended fancy dinners and parties, but somehow, he still felt something was lacking and he couldn't put his finger on it.

One day, the King had woken up earlier than usual to stroll around his palace. He entered his huge living room and came to a stop when he heard someone happily singing away... following this singing... he saw that one of the servants was singing and had a very contented look on his face.
This fascinated the King and he summoned this man to his chambers.

The man entered the King's chambers as ordered. The King asked why he was so happy?

To this the man replied: "Your Majesty, I am nothing but a servant, but I make enough of a living to keep my wife and children happy. We don't need too much, a roof over our heads and warm food to fill our tummy. My wife and children are my inspiration, they are content with whatever little I bring home. I am happy because my family is happy."

Hearing this, the King dismissed the servant and summoned his Personal Assistant to his chambers.

The King related his personal anguish about his feelings and then related the story of the servant to his Personal Assistant, hoping that somehow, he will be able to come up with some reasoning that here was a King who could have anything he wished for at a snap of his fingers and yet was not contented, whereas, his servant, having so little was extremely contented.

The Personal Assistant listened attentively and came to a conclusion. He said, "Your Majesty, I believe that the servant has not been made part of The 99 Club."
"The 99 Club? And what exactly is that?" the King inquired.

To which the Assistant replied, "Your Majesty, to truly know what The 99 Club is, you will have to do the following... place 99 Gold coins in a bag and leave it at this servant's doorstep, you will then understand what The 99 Club is."
That very same evening, the King arranged for 99 Gold coins to be placed in a bag at the servant's doorstep. Although he was slightly hesitant and he thought he should have put 100 Gold coins into the bag, but since his assistant had advised him to put 99 that is what he did.

The servant was just stepping out of his house when he saw a bag at his doorstep. Wondering about its contents, he took it into his house and opened the bag. When he opened the bag, he let out a great big shout of joy...Gold Coins... so many of them. He could hardly believe it. He called his wife to show her the coins.

He then took the bag to a table and emptied it out and began to count the coins. Doing so, he realized that there were 99 coins and he thought it was an odd number so he counted again, and again and again only to come to the same conclusion... 99 Gold Coins.

He began to wonder, what could have happened to that last 1 coin? For no one would leave 99 coins. He began to search his entire house, looked around his backyard for hours, not wanting to lose out on that one coin. Finally, exhausted, he decided that he was going to have to work harder than ever to make up for that 1 Gold coin to make his entire collection an even 100 Gold Coins.

He got up the next morning, in an extremely horrible mood, shouting at the children and his wife for his delay, not realizing that he had spent most of the night conjuring ways of working hard so that he had enough money to buy himself that gold coin. He went to work as usual - but not in his usual best mood, singing happily - as he grumpily did his daily errands.
Seeing the man's attitude change so drastically, the King was puzzled. He promptly summoned his assistant to his chambers. The King related his thoughts about the servant and once again, his assistant listened. The King could not believe that the servant who until yesterday had been singing away and was happy and content with his life had taken a sudden change of attitude, even though he should have been happier after receiving the gold coins.
To this the assistant replied "Ah! But your Majesty, the servant has now officially joined The 99 Club." He explained: "The 99 Club is just a name given to those people who have everything but yet are never contented, therefore they are always working hard and striving for that extra 1 to round it out to 100!
We have so much to be thankful for and we can live with very little in our lives, but the minute we are given something bigger and better, we want even more!

Lesson to learn from this Story:

We are not the same happy contented person we used to be, we want more and more and by wanting more and more we don't realize the price we pay for it.

We lose our sleep, our happiness; we hurt the people around us just as a price to pay for our growing needs and desires.

That is what joining The 99 Club is all about."

Hearing this the King decided that from that day onwards, he was going to start appreciating all the little things in life.

Striving for more is always good, but let's not strive so hard and for so much that we loses all those near and dear to our hearts, we shouldn't compromise our happiness for moments of luxuries!

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone। The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said "you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one." You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.
Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.
Once upon a time, there was a guy who was very much in love with this girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of papercranes as a gift to his girl. Although, at that time he was just a small executive in his company, his future doesn't seemed too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualise any future for the both of them, so let's go their own ways there and then... heartbroken, the guy agreed.
When he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all these hardwork and with the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company...
"You never fail until you stop trying." he always told himself. "I must make it in life!"
One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination। Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realise those were his ex-girlfriend's parents. With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same anymore, he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He had made it in life!
Before the guy can realise, the couple was walking towards a cemetary,and he got out of his car and followed them...and he saw his ex-girlfriend, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone... and he saw his precious papercranes in a bottle placed beside her tomb.
Her parents saw him. He walked over and asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was stricken ill with cancer. In her heart, she had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want her illness to be his obstacle ... therefore she had chosen to leave him.
She had wanted her parents to put his papercranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again he can take some of those back with him. The guy just wept ...
The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them but knowing you can't have them and will never see them again।
A rat looked through a crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife opening a package. What food might it contain? He was aghast to discover that it was a rattrap.
Retreating to the farmyard the rat proclaimed the warning; "There is a rat trap in the house, a rat trap in the house!"
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Excuse me, Mr. Rat, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."
The rat turned to the goat and told him, "There is a rat trap in the house"। "A rat trap in the house? I am so very sorry Mr. Rat"; sympathized the goat," but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured that you are in my prayers."
The rat turned to the cow. She said, "Like wow, Mr. Rat, a rat trap. I am in grave danger. Duh! "
So the rat returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's rattrap alone. That very night a sound was heard throughout the house, like the sound of a rattrap catching its prey.
The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see that it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital.
She returned home with a fever. Now everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient.
His wife's sickness continued so that friends and neighbours came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them the farmer butchered the goat. The farmer's wife did not get well. She died, and so many people came for her funeral that the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide meat for all of them to eat.
So the next time you hear that someone is facing a problem and think that it does not concern you, remember that when there is a rattrap in the house, the whole farmyard is at risk।

Yesterday's Food
Once there was a very rich merchant, doing well in business. His wife died long ago. He had one married son. His daughter-in-law was very wise and expert in house hold works. He was very much proud of her. Once he was having lunch at his verandah when a monk came to his door asking for some food. The merchant didn't pay attention as he never used to give anything to such kind of people. The monk asked again and didn't get any reply. As he was asking third time, the daughter-in-law replied politely - "Dear babaji, go to next door. My father-in-law is himself having yesterday's food. He will not be able to give you anything."
The monk understood and went ahead. But as the merchant heard these words spoken by the girl, he became very much angry with her. He was the richest person in the village. Why would he eat yesterday's food? The girl must have become insane - he thought. As he was very much proud of her wise ness, so his anger was even greater. How did it come he didn't realize this girl's insanity? He summoned panchaayat (village court) and girl's father that the girl was out of her mind and his son would break this marriage tie.
As people gathered in panchaayat, he told the event and asked for justice which was to untie the marriage in his point of view. The girl's father was also present. He said-" I know my daughter is wise enough not to speak any meaningless words. But I am unable to understand its meaning. So I would request her to come and explain why she said so. It is not wise to give a decision without hearing her."
The panchaayat agreed on it and the girl came to panchaayat. She said -" I know my father-in-law is the richest and most respected person in this village. What I wanted to say that he has done much good deeds in his previous lives that is why he got these wonderful blessings from GOD which he is enjoying now. In this way it is his yesterday's earned food. But he is not doing any good deeds in this life, but only earning money for himself. I love him very much and want him to enjoy these blessings forever. I wanted to tell him this truth that is why I said so. I knew he would be angry and would like to get an explanation, and then maybe I will be able to tell him."
The merchant understood the real meaning of the words and felt very much ashamed to bring his wise daughter-in-law in court. He apologized and started doing some actual good deeds for others.
It is general practice that people either enjoy their present blessings or they feel inferior while seeing others having more possessions in life. People always think why other has more wealth, why they are more intelligent. They forget that each and everything is our own earning. Whatever we earned, we are eating now. And whatever we are doing will come to us in future, be it material treasures or spiritual.
In the same way people enjoy their current position. They laugh at others who don't have intellect, money and other thing. They enjoy even their spiritual status, but they forget that if they will not work at present, their current treasure would be slowly spent.
We should work for tomorrow while we are enjoying present.
The Poor Boy

Angelo was a poor boy who’d never learned to laugh; he had a sick mother, and he was all she had। He asked the town doctor to come and save her life; but the rich man was busy and said "let your mother die”. ...and the doctor heard these words: Remember this rich manyou made a poor boy cry; you will lose everything when you grow old and die; there are rich, there are poor,there’s a name for everyone; in the end God will reign, He knows what you have done. Angelo came home to see his mother faint;with final look, she touched his face and said live for me my son. Angelo buried herin a forest down the cliff;on her tomb he promised her to work hard to get rich. Twenty years had passed, all memories had gone; Angelo became rich, and began to live like one.There’s smile on his face when the town doctor passed away;secretly he told himself his time finally came. One day at his mansionsomeone knocked on the door;Angelo was busy and said go away poor boy. ...then Angelo heard these words: Remember this rich man you made a poor boy cry; you will lose everything when you grow old and die; there are rich, there are poor, there’s a name for everyone; in the end God will reign, He knows what you have done. The poor boy left cryingbecause her mother was sick;on her bed he promised her to work hard to get rich. ...to work hard to get rich.

There once was a Man who was a failure in everything he didHe managed to get a decent job though, but his co-workers continued to belittle and mock him because he can’t seem to get anything right.On the contrary his boss was a persuasion expert. Instead of scolding the man, his boss motivated him and made him a much better person.When ever the man made a mistake, his boss would say Its OK. We all make mistakes all the time. I know you will learn from this experience and you will do much better next time. This act boosted the man’s ego.Whenever the man did something right even if it’s the littlest thing, his boss would praise him and say you are very much improved Good Job.His boss would sometimes even assign him good qualities that he may not even possess yet.Because the boss expected the man to be capable of doing great things, and by assigning him qualities that he may not even possess at that moment, the man became highly successful.The Reason?If you expect and assign good qualities to someone that person will exert voluntary effort to your expectationsPersuasion is extremely POWERFUL Tool

Monday, August 25, 2008

रियल worship

Discourse by Sri Swami Vivekananda



It is in love that religion exists and not in ceremony, in the pure and sincere love in the heart. Unless a man is pure in body and mind, his coming into a temple and worshipping Shiva is useless. The prayers of those that are pure in mind and body will be answered by Shiva, and those that are impure and yet try to teach religion to others will fail in the end. External worship is only a symbol of internal worship; but internal worship and purity are the real things. Without them, external worship would be of no avail. Therefore you must all try to remember this.

People have become so degraded in this Kali Yuga that they think they can do anything, and then they can go to a holy place, and their sins will be forgiven. If a man goes with an impure mind into a temple, he adds to the sins that he had already, and goes home a worse man than when he left it. Tirtha (place of pilgrimage) is a place which is full of holy things and holy men. But if holy people live in a certain place, and if there is no temple there, even that is a Tirtha. If unholy people live in a place where there may be a hundred temples, the Tirtha has vanished from that place. And it is most difficult to live in a Tirtha; for if sin is committed in any ordinary place it can easily be removed, but sin committed in a Tirtha cannot be removed. This is the gist of all worship, to be pure and to do good to others. He who sees Shiva in the poor, in the weak, and in the diseased, really worships Shiva; and if he sees Shiva only in the image, his worship is but preliminary. He who has served and helped one poor man seeing Shiva in him, without thinking of his caste, or creed, or race, or anything, with him Shiva is more pleased than with the man who sees Him only in temples.

A rich man had a garden and two gardeners. One of these gardeners was very lazy and did not work; but when the owner came to the garden, the lazy man would get up and fold his arms and say, "How beautiful is the face of my master", and dance before him. The other gardener would not talk much, but would work hard, and produce all sorts of fruits and vegetables which he would carry on his head to his master who lived a long way off. Of these two gardeners, which would be the more beloved of his master? Shiva is that master, and this world is His garden, and there are two sorts of gardeners here; the one who is lazy, hypocritical, and does nothing, only talking about Shiva's beautiful eyes and nose and other features; and the other, who is taking care of Shiva's children, all those that are poor and weak, all animals, and all His creation. Which of these would be the more beloved of Shiva? Certainly he that serves His children. He who wants to serve the father must serve the children first. He who wants to serve Shiva must serve His children, must serve all creatures in this world first. It is said in the Shastra that those who serve the servants of God are His greatest servants. So you will bear this in mind.

Let me tell you again that you must be pure and help any one who comes to you, as much as lies in your power. And this is good Karma. By the power of this, the heart becomes pure (Chittashuddhi) , and then Shiva who is residing in every one will become manifest. He is always in the heart of every one. If there is dirt and dust on a mirror, we cannot see our image. So ignorance and wickedness are the dirt and dust that are on the mirror of our hearts. Selfishness is the chief sin, thinking of ourselves first. He who thinks, "I will eat first, I will have more money than others, and I will possess everything", he who thinks, "I will get to heaven before others, I will get Mukti before others" is the selfish man. The unselfish man says, "I will be last, I do not care to go to heaven, I will even go to hell if by doing so I can help my brothers." This unselfishness is the test of religion. He who has more of this unselfishness is more spiritual and nearer to Shiva. Whether he is learned or ignorant, he is nearer to Shiva than anybody else, whether he knows it or not. And if a man is selfish, even though he has visited all the temples, seen all the places of pilgrimage, and painted himself like a leopard, he is still further off from Shiva.